2013 in Review on American Trans Man

Hello folks and happy New Year!

Yes, I’m still here, although it’s true that I haven’t posted in a long time.  There are still several blog posts on my “to do” list. The problem is that they are crowded out by many other items.

Despite my meager postings in 2013, this blog still received some attention last year, thanks to you, readers.   The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog which will tell you all about it.

Here’s an excerpt:

Madison Square Garden can seat 20,000 people for a concert. This blog was viewed about 69,000 times in 2013. If it were a concert at Madison Square Garden, it would take about 3 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

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Reblog: All You Need to Know to Support Your Transgender Friend

An excellent piece posted by Dillan DiGiovanni on July 31, 2013:

I wrote this because I was asked to write it. People tell me that they really want to know how they can better support someone who is transgender, so I’m happy to share some of my experience …

Read the rest of Dillan’s post by clicking here –>

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Why Dustin Hoffman Still Got It Wrong

220px-Tootsie_impOn July 6, Jill Pantozzi of The Mary Sue posted a video from the American Film Institute’s archives that has since gone viral.  In the clip of an interview conducted last year, actor Dustin Hoffman talks with quite a bit of emotion, choking up even, about a revelation he experienced while made up as a woman during a screen test for the film Tootsie. Hoffman recounted:

“…When we got to that point and looked at it on-screen, I was shocked that I wasn’t more attractive. And I said, ‘Now you have me looking like a woman. Now make me a beautiful woman.’ Because I thought I should be beautiful. If I was going to be a woman, I would want to be as beautiful as possible.  And they said to me, ‘That’s as good as it gets. That’s as beautiful as we can getcha, Charlie.’ 

And it was at that moment that I had an epiphany, and I went home and started crying, talking to my wife, and I said, ‘I have to make this picture,’ and she said, ‘Why?’ And I said, ‘Because I think I am an interesting woman when I look at myself on-screen, and I know that if I met myself at a party, I would never talk to that character because she doesn’t fulfill, physically, the demands that we’re brought up to think women have to have in order for us to ask them out.”

As the YouTube version of this interview climbs toward 4.5 million views, Hoffman is being applauded throughout the media for copping to his shallowness.  For example, during a Boston radio show this morning, one female and two male disc jockeys lauded Hoffman for breaking into tears during the interview and admitting that, prior to his epiphany, he had based a woman’s worth on unfair standards of beauty.

That would be great if Dustin Hoffman truly deserved these accolades, but he doesn’t, in my opinion, and I’ll give you two reasons why.

First, Hoffman’s views about women didn’t really evolve with his revelation – they only shifted a little bit, as evidenced by a remark he made prior to choking up over himself:

“I did go to Columbia and I asked them if they would spend the money to do makeup tests so that I could look like a woman. … I just somehow intuitively felt that unless I could walk down the streets of New York dressed as a woman and not have people turn and say, ‘Who’s that guy in drag?’ or turn for any reason, you know, ‘Who’s that freak?’ Unless I could do that, I didn’t want to make the film…”

Who’s that freak?

Right.  So Mr. Hoffman can have an epiphany over the judgement of a woman’s date-worthiness that’s based on her perceived beauty, but if she’s not feminine enough, and I wonder how many trans and non-trans women he would put into that category, she is not only ineligible to be considered for a date, but she is relegated to the “freak show”?

That’s the first place Mr. Hoffman still got it wrong.  The second comes at the end of the quote given above,

“I think I am an interesting woman when I look at myself on-screen, and I know that if I met myself at a party, I would never talk to that character because she doesn’t fulfill, physically, the demands that we’re brought up to think women have to have in order for us to ask them out.  …  There are too many interesting women I have not had the experience to know in this life because I have been brainwashed.”

The demands that he was brought up to think women have to have in order for him to ask them out because he had been brainwashed…   There are plenty of men who, similar to Hoffman, are exposed throughout their lives to the sexist standards of beauty and femininity that society imposes upon women, yet who ask out women of all types of physicality and gender expression.  But if Hoffman doesn’t, it’s not his fault because he was brainwashed?

With all due respect, Dustin Hoffman won’t get my applause for his epiphany until he takes some responsibility for himself, stops acting as though he had no choice when he snubbed women who didn’t meet his requirements of beauty, and understands that he shouldn’t classify women as freaks when they don’t fall under his standards of femininity.


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Happy Father’s Day

Last year’s ATM Father’s Day post, revisited.

American Trans Man

When I first entered the trans community, I heard a story about a medically transitioned trans guy who had to pretend to be his former female self when he went to visit his elderly father.  I don’t remember the details behind the situation, but I do recall thinking, “Wow, that must be tough.”

Little did I know that a few years later, I would be in the same situation.

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Oh, Boston

B.A.A. - Boston Marathon 2013 LogoI was wrapping up a meeting with an employee in my office when my cell phone buzzed.  It was Monday, April 15 at 3:21 pm.

Picking up the phone, I saw a text from an Irish friend who lives outside of Dublin. “What the hell!” it said, “What is going on over there?”

With a knot in my stomach, I had a brief flashback to the morning of 9-11 when one of the administrative assistants stood in the center of our offices at work and said, “A plane just flew into the Twin Towers.”

I turned to my computer screen and saw an email from a co-worker who was going to show a few of us his new car at the end of the work day.  “Guys lets cancel, explosions on
Boylston St!! People hurt.”  Looking back, my interest in his new car seems so trivial now.

When I couldn’t connect to the Boston Globe web site, I knew it was from heavy on-line traffic. I sent a text back to my friend in Ireland.  “Just heard about it myself.”  I didn’t know what had happened, but I knew it was bad.

Then, the Globe web site appeared with the images, the videos, Twitter feeds, confusion with the fire at the JFK Library, and gruesome photos of the carnage and the horror at the Boston Marathon.  I repeatedly watched the now famous video taken at the finish line by a Globe reporter Steve Silva of both bombs exploding and the subsequent heroic responses by civilians, police, EMTs, firefighters and medical personnel.

Believe in BostonI think it would be an understatement to say that was the beginning of five tough, tense, sorrowful, grueling days in Boston.
I’m not going to go through all the details here – those can be found easily enough in the media. I do, however, have a few things to say.
First, my deepest condolences and sympathies go to the families of Martin Richard, Krystle Campbell and Lingzi Lu, the three people who were killed by the explosions at the marathon on Monday, and Sean Collier, the MIT police officer who was assassinated by the bombing suspects Thursday night.

I send my prayers and support to the more than 180 people who were injured by the blasts at the marathon, especially those who are still in serious condition in Boston hospitals, and to Richard Donohue, Jr., the MBTA Transit Police officer who was shot during the gunfight with the marathon bombing suspects on Thursday night and is also still in the hospital.

Happy Gilmore tweetTo the talking heads I’m watching right now on Sunday morning TV who are retrospectively second guessing the justification for Friday’s lockdown during the biggest manhunt in Massachusetts’ and the nation’s history and how it “gave the terrorists an economic victory”, I say, “Shut the hell up!”  Personally, I stand behind my governor, Deval Patrick, and Boston Mayor Menino on this one.

Thank You Police
To the local and federal law enforcement agencies, including the Boston Police, the Massachusetts State Police, the MBTA Transit Police, the MIT and Waterown Police, the FBI, the ATF and others, and to the first responders, EMTs and all the medical personnel, and even to the citizens of Boston and elsewhere who helped in so many ways during this ordeal, I repeat Mayor Menino’s words, “Thank you, thank you, thank you!”

Lastly, about being a resident of the Boston area.  Although I moved here 15 years ago, I have always felt like a bit of an outsider.  Boston roots run deep.  Family and neighborhood ties go back generations, and I have been reminded over the years about how I was not born and raised here.  But those feelings of not being truly “from” here changed this week.  I walk these streets where the events took place, I check in with friends who were in the race, at the finish line and living in Watertown, I listen to friends and acquaintances who know the injured and the dead, the first responders and the police.  I feel just as much from Boston as Marky Mark, and I am in awe of the compassion, resolve and courage of the people of this town.

Boston, you’re my home, and I am so proud of you.

Five Days in April — edited by The Boston Globe’s Scott LaPierre

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New Post Coming …. “Soon”

Dear Readers,

Some of you may be wondering, “Where the heck did that science-y trans guy go?”

Well, I’ve been around, busy as usual, but I have been working on a blog post for weeks now, since early December.  I thought it would be an easy-breezy slam dunk kind of blog post, the kind I could write in an evening after reading a few papers from the scientific literature.

It didn’t turn out that way though.  The more I got into the literature, the more I needed to read so I could understand the data, and the more I read, the less I understood it.

Working BrainThe topic has to do with the brain, and my own brain has always had trouble understanding itself. Neurobiology, neural physiology, neuroanatomy… anything that has to do with the form and function of the central and peripheral nervous systems – the brain and the nerves – is pretty much Greek to me, so to speak.  I just don’t get it.

So as I work to comprehend and understand a topic in what has always been my worst subject, I ask for your patience. Please stay with me and I promise I will deliver something soon, depending on your definition of ‘soon.’

In the meantime, I hope y’all are well and having a great start to the New Year!


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2012 in Review

Dear Readers,
Happy New Year!

I am currently working on a new post for the New Year.  Until it’s published, y’all are welcome to check out the Word Press annual report for American Trans Man  to learn how ATM fared in 2012.  (Doesn’t look too bad considering I pretty much didn’t post anything in the final quarter of the year.)

Stay tuned for the new post, and thank you for your interest in American Trans Man!!


The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

19,000 people fit into the new Barclays Center to see Jay-Z perform. This blog was viewed about 66,000 times in 2012. If it were a concert at the Barclays Center, it would take about 3 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

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